Why men lose respect in case of marriage breakdown ?
Just an afternoon thought, nothing more. I have immense respect for stars like Aamir Khan and Dharmendra (Both professionally and personally), But some time I wondered to see disrespect in some eyes for these legends just because of their respective divorces. Fans of these stars often encountered these accusations. My question is WHY and How ? How we can blindly blame them for their marriage breakdown ? And even if they are guilty , How we can assure that nothing was wrong from other side ? And even if on surface level, one person seems outright guilty, can’t we give a thought about some unavoidable circumstances ? Few questions :
- Q1 : How everyone blindly put blame on men ?
- Q2 : Even if there is guilt on man part, isn’t there possibility of equal mistake on woman part ?
- Q3 : is there not any possibility of compatibility issue which lead to serious mental harassment ?
- Q4 : Might be one partner is trying to adjust and adjustment is easy on his/her part, but isn’t possible that adjustment means a hell for another half ?
- Q5 : Why men are considered as “He don’t respect women” in case of divorce ? Even after so much education why we don’t consider the possibility of any genuine reason behind the breakdown of marriage ?
As long as I have seen Aamir and Dharmendra, I love both as a human being. Both are immensely emotional and extremely sensible, can cry on any human exploit and pain.
But again, these are celebrities. If there are thousands who don’t like them personally for their marriage glitches, there are another millions who like them and see their marriage breakdown as one painful part of their life, nothing guilt on their part. But what about common MAN ? In case of divorce he labeled as “Disrespectful towards women” type of guy who don’t carry emotions and sympathy towards women and “Use and throw” type guy.
When our society will educate ? and When we can understand the human emotions without partiality ? When we can understand that MAN and WOMAN are equally emotional and sensible. When we can understand that Marriage breakdown is painful process for not only women but equally for men ? When we get to know that women can be equally or more responsible for divorce ? When we educate about partners compatibility ?
Well there was purpose of this post. one reason behind this post (Dharam and Aamir are just taken as example). Two days back, one of my good friend committed suicide. Reason was his marriage glitches. He was under severe depression since first day of marriage and was unable to lead his life, tried many times for divorce, but unable to because of family and society pride issue. He faced so many abusive words and accusations from his family and girl’s family because of his raising voice for divorce every day. And at last he commit suicide. As I personally know him, he was very nice guy and most kind hearted man I ever met. His biggest blunder of life was non-compatible marriage due to some circumstances. He suffered hell for 2 years and finally commit suicide. he could have been saved, if understood fairly by family and friends with open mind [Along with understanding that divorce is not always bad, and mandatory if problem is genuine (Even in case no fault of girl, but boy is suffering a lot due to many other reasons, problem is authentic) ].
Everyone is crying like anything from his home. Who was guilty in this case ? Boy , Girl or their families ? and suppose even if that boy was able to get separate, would not he had to face serious allegations (“Not respect women” , “Use and throw guy” , “Insensitive” “ cruel”) from society ? No one even think for once that he might be suffering a lot in bad marriage and this separation might be good for both.
Seriously guys, we need to change our views and thought process towards human emotions and their behavior. You are enjoying good married life doesn’t mean everyone is gifted these blessings by GOD. Marriage breakdown is not always a bad thing (In fact IMO in case of breakdown, there must be something horribly wrong and separation is always for good in those cases). BUT PLEASE , SPARE MEN FROM ALL ALLEGATIONS. WHAT YOU THINK ?